Let’s get something clear right out of the gate: you’re not stealing someone’s dream life by going after your own. You’re not a villain for wanting what you want. And no, manifesting your desires doesn’t mean you’ve hijacked someone else’s storyline. You’re just using the universal tools we all came equipped with—consciousness, imagination, and a pinch of divine audacity.
But here’s where most people get tangled up in their own minds. They start believing that desire is somehow selfish, that wanting big things makes them greedy, or that pursuing their dreams might accidentally crush someone else’s. It’s like we’ve been programmed to think the universe operates on some kind of cosmic rationing system—as if there’s only so much joy, love, or success to go around, and we better not take more than our “fair share.”
That mindset? It’s exhausting. And it’s completely wrong.
So, what’s the catch?
Every person has free will—but only in their own reality.
Yes, that sounds trippy. But stick with me. Because once this really lands, you’ll stop worrying about what others are doing, who else wants what you want, or whether you’re “allowed” to desire the big, shiny thing your heart won’t shut up about.
Let’s dive in.
Free Will: The Ultimate Solo Game
Most of us were taught that free will is this grand, shared freedom to make choices in the world. But what if I told you free will isn’t about how you navigate the world—it’s about how you navigate your world?
Your reality is like your own personal Netflix series. Others appear in your episodes, sure. Some even win Emmys for Best Supporting Role in the Drama of Your Love Life. But you’re still the screenwriter, director, lead actor, and yes—even the editor who keeps cutting out the boring scenes.
Think about it: you’ve never actually experienced anyone else’s thoughts directly. You’ve never seen through someone else’s eyes or felt their emotions firsthand. Everything you know about other people is filtered through your own perceptions, your own assumptions, your own beliefs about who they are and what they’re capable of.
In this personal universe of yours, you can pursue any desire you hold—as long as you don’t try to get it by believing in lack. Because the moment you assume something is limited, your brain starts whispering, “Uh oh… better take it before someone else does.”
That’s when things get messy.
The truth is the universe doesn’t operate like a pie where taking a bigger slice means someone else gets less. It operates more like a limitless buffet where everyone can go back for seconds, thirds, and yes—even dessert—without anyone else going hungry.
Why Believing in Lack Makes You Weirdly Aggressive
Let’s say you want a dream job. Maybe it’s at that company you’ve been stalking on LinkedIn for months, with the killer benefits package and the office dog named Steve. But instead of trusting the infinite nature of possibilities, you decide there are only three jobs worth having in your field. And someone else is interviewing for one. Suddenly, your vibe shifts from confident creator to “I hope she trips in the parking lot so I get the position.”
Look, we’ve all been there. Desperation has made fools of even the most enlightened among us.
But here’s the cosmic punchline: the moment you try to take what you think belongs to someone else, you’re violating the very law that would’ve handed you your own version of it on a golden platter.
You’ve left the creative high ground and entered the Hunger Games. And guess what? No one wins in the scarcity Olympics—not even Katniss.
When you operate from lack, you’re essentially telling the universe, “I don’t trust you to provide for me, so I’m going to fight for scraps instead.” And the universe, being the accommodating mirror that it is, says, “Okay, if that’s what you believe, that’s what you’ll experience.”
Reality is Private Property (But You’re the Only Resident)
This is the part that scrambles most people’s brains.
What if I told you that no one else’s reality is real to you—only your own? You can’t see through anyone’s eyes. You can’t feel their thoughts. You only perceive what you believe about them.
Now here’s where it gets wild…
Two people can desire the exact same thing—say, a specific person as a partner—and both can “have” that person. Not because the person gets split into quantum clones like some reality-show bachelor (though that would make excellent TV), but because each person is experiencing a version of reality that reflects their own consciousness.
Let that sink in.
This isn’t about one person getting the “real” version while the other gets a consolation prize. It’s about understanding that there are as many versions of reality as there are conscious observers. Each person’s assumptions about what’s possible create the framework for what they experience.
It’s like standing in front of a mirror. The reflection you see is uniquely yours—it corresponds to where you’re standing, how you’re positioned, what you’re wearing. Someone else standing next to you sees a completely different reflection, even though you’re both looking at the same mirror.
The Specific Person Dilemma: Or, Who Gets the Guy?
Imagine Bob and Lisa both want to be with Taylor. (Let’s assume Taylor is attractive, emotionally available, and smells like warm vanilla. A true unicorn.)
Both Bob and Lisa are conscious creators. They script, they affirm, they visualize. In Bob’s world, Taylor ends up with him—circumstances somehow lead to that result. Maybe they bump into each other at that coffee shop Taylor mentioned loving, or maybe Taylor suddenly realizes that Bob’s terrible dad jokes are actually endearing. Lisa, in her world, experiences a different version where Taylor ends up with her. Perhaps in her reality, Taylor never went to that coffee shop, or maybe Taylor’s sense of humour leans more toward Lisa’s wit and sarcasm.
To an outsider, this sounds impossible. But to a reality creator, this is just how things work.
Each person lives in a universe tailored to their assumptions.
If Bob assumes he’s the one Taylor chooses, and he persists in that belief, then in his reality, that’s what happens. Lisa may experience a completely different chain of events where things “just didn’t work out” with Taylor—or maybe she gets an even better match she never expected. Someone who appreciates her morning grumpiness and doesn’t judge her for eating cereal for dinner.
And the best part? Neither of them stole from the other. There was no fight, no cosmic judgment day, no ethical foul play.
Just parallel assumptions, playing out in parallel realities.
“But Wait… Doesn’t That Make Life Kind of Lonely?”
Not at all.
It makes life delightfully liberating. Once you understand that you’re not at the mercy of others’ choices or fates, you’re free to live without the emotional weight of comparison and competition.
You’re not late. You’re not behind. And you’re definitely not in anyone’s way.
You’re just experiencing your own consciousness, projected outward as a 3D experience. The better you feel about your desires—and the more trust you place in your power to create them—the smoother the ride.
Think about how much mental energy you’ve wasted worrying about what someone else might do, whether they’ll choose you, whether they’ll succeed before you do, or whether their happiness somehow diminishes your chances. All that worry was never necessary. You were never in competition with them because you were never playing the same game.
And yes, your ex who got away might be happily married in someone else’s reality. But in yours? You get to decide whether they’re coming back, staying gone, or texting you awkward memes at midnight while reconsidering all their life choices.
The Golden Rule Still Applies (But in a More Fun Way)
None of this negates ethics. In fact, the golden rule becomes even more important in a multiverse of self-created realities.
If you want to be treated with love, act from love. If you want freedom, don’t try to control others. If you want to be trusted, trust yourself.
You don’t have to manipulate, coerce, or “strategize” your way into someone else’s storyline. You just tune into the version of reality where your desire is already real, already done, already yours—and live from that place.
When you operate from this understanding, something beautiful happens: you stop trying to force outcomes and start allowing them. You stop micromanaging the universe and start collaborating with it. You become less attached to the “how” and more focused on the “what” and the “why.”
Because in the end, you’re not bending others to your will. You’re bending your will to believe what your heart already knows is possible.
So, What Do You Actually Do with This Knowledge?
1. Stop Competing.
Seriously. You’re not in a race. That person with the six-figure business, dream partner, and Pinterest-worthy morning routine? They’re in their world. Stay in yours. (And maybe bless their coffee while you’re at it.)
Competition implies scarcity, and scarcity is the opposite of creation. When you catch yourself sizing up someone else’s success or comparing your chapter 3 to their chapter 20, remember: you’re reading completely different books.
2. Reclaim Desire Without Guilt.
You want what you want because it’s meant for you. The desire itself is the evidence it’s possible. You’re not greedy. You’re just remembering what your soul already knows.
Stop apologizing for wanting good things. Stop downplaying your dreams or making them smaller so other people feel comfortable. Your desires aren’t accidents—they’re assignments. They’re clues about who you’re becoming and what you’re here to experience.
3. Assume the Best—and Persist.
Things might look opposite in the 3D for a while. That’s fine. Keep going. The 3D is just the last place things show up. Your inner reality has already shifted the moment you decided.
Persistence doesn’t mean forcing or pushing. It means maintaining your inner knowing even when the external evidence hasn’t caught up yet. It’s like planting a seed and trusting it’s growing even when you can’t see the sprout yet.
4. Laugh at the Illusion.
When life starts to look like a cosmic soap opera, smile. You’re not stuck. You’re just watching the plot twist before the happy ending.
Sometimes the universe has a sense of humour about timing. Sometimes things must fall apart before they fall into place. When you can laugh at the apparent chaos, you’re operating from a place of trust rather than fear.
Final Thoughts: You’re the Architect, Not the Applicant
Life isn’t some exclusive club you’re trying to get into. You’re not submitting a resume to the universe, hoping to get picked.
You are the architect of the whole thing.
The rules are yours to follow—but only when you truly understand them:
• Everyone has free will in their own reality.
• Lack is an illusion.
• Competition is a construct.
• And desire is divine.
So go ahead—ask for what you want. Boldly. Lovingly. Unapologetically.
No one else can have it your way. And no one can block your blessing unless you hand them the blueprint.
